How To Rebuild Trust In Addiction Recovery

Addiction causes turbulence in the Family. A study proves that a couple dealing with addiction have four times the risk of divorce than those who don’t. The damage that people cause due to addiction is major and beyond repair. No matter how hard you try, your partner wants to call it quits because for them it might be impossible to forgive or trust you again.
It’s important to realize that you can’t expect to get back the same relationship you had prior to your addiction – after all, there’s no changing what’s happened or forgetting the hurt and anger. You can create a new marriage, however, that’s based on mutual support and respect, solid communication and trust – but doing so will take time and effort on both your parts. Similarly, chances are good that you’ll need to work on any unresolved issues and problems your relationship had prior to your addiction.
Each day of recovery is one more brick in the foundation of a new reliability that the family will come to trust and believe in. Each day sober speaks louder than a thousand promises.
– Lara Okoloko

Steps to regain trust.

1. Make up for the damage created 
It’s hard to admit when you’ve said or done something wrong or hurtful. But acknowledging the truth of what you said or did shows that you are growing as a person. Your loved one sees that you are taking the steps to becoming a better version on you and helps restore their trust.
2. Honesty is the best policy.
When in addiction, there would have been no lie that you would not have said to get what you wanted. Even as you’re dealing with trying to trust yourself, your partner is working on trusting you again, too. Initially, it may seem difficult, if not impossible, for trust, respect and love to be re-established. It might help to create a system that works for both of you and agree to honor it.
3. Self Forgiveness
As you work towards reconciling with your spouse and creating a new, happier and healthier marriage or relationship, don’t forget yourself. Make sure you each take the time to indulge your own interests and take time alone to do what makes you happiest. If either partner wants to participate in individual counseling, the other should support that decision. Some people in your life may find they’re not able to let past transgressions go, and that’s something you cannot change. But you can work on unburdening yourself of the guilt, shame and regret over your past deeds. 
4.Take accountability for your actions
It’s hard to admit when you’ve said or done something wrong or hurtful. But acknowledging the truth of what you said or did shows that you are growing as a person. Your loved one sees that you are taking the steps to becoming a better version on you and helps restore their trust. You can also use writing as a way to communicate with your spouse. If you’re finding it tough to talk through what you want to say, you’re definitely not alone. After months or even years of emotional pain, frustration and rage, as well as lying and hiding, it can be very difficult to switch gears and become open and communicative almost overnight. If talking about tough issues is too hard at first, write it down in a letter. Once the two of you have begun communicating through letters for a while, it should become easier to have face-to-face discussions.
5. Patience is the key
You know you’re changing, but they might be cautious. Understand that your loved one has gone through a lot for a long time. He or she needs time to build trust. Showing empathy (putting yourself in their shoes) and patience goes a long way and helps you as well.  Involving your spouse in the process to some extent can also be helpful for your marriage. As mentioned above, consider including some couples therapy sessions so you can start rebuilding your relationship as you learn to live sober.Contact us for guidance in recovery. Your privacy is our priority.
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How To Rebuild Trust In Addiction Recovery was last modified: July 20th, 2017 by Safe House Wellness Retreat

Acceptance of Addiction : Most Important

Every human being has flaws and deficiencies, and there is no work around for it. However, when addicted he/she becomes more intensify when addicted to drugs and alcohol. For many addicts, its the drugs that keeps them covered from such insecurities.
Once they attain sobriety, they are left to deal with these flaws and then the rollecoaster of emotions that they go through is very difficult for them to accept. 
When we enter the Treatment process in solemn, there definitely are moments in which one feels uncertainty. We have many disclosures about what kind of person we are, and we may not want to face that side of ours. Perhaps, the biggest realizations we have is that were all are somewhere aware of our imperfections and flaws. 
Throughout the process of recovery, it becomes extremely crucial that we adopt an attitude of acceptance in order to curb the negativity that can sabotage our efforts to get sober. If we are to start our journey of recovery on solid footing, we need to learn how to cultivate acceptance for ourselves.
The Importance of Self- Acceptance in Recovery
If you have not worked on developing acceptance in your sobriety, any recovery you do achieve will more than likely be short-lived, and it is more likely that you will encounter relapse on a regular basis. As alluded to earlier, the inability to fully accept who you are and where you are at means that you are engaging in self-sabotage. Instead of doing the right thing because you want to do it, you end up doing it because you allow negatively to run riot in your head.
When you practice self-acceptance in sobriety, the goal is for you to accept that you are what you are in the here and now–and you ultimately have the capacity and power to change how you view your current situation. Acceptance also means that you are going to work hard to overcome your flaws in the future because they need to be addressed in order for you to become a better person. When you deal with yourself and your situations with compassion, you are giving yourself a much better chance at succeeding in your sobriety for the long haul.
Call Safe House Wellness Retreat Team to help you walk the path to Recovery and also indulge your family in counseling sessions. 
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You need to take the decision! You can always overcome addiction.

A great Hollywood comeback story, Robert Downey Jr. is now one of the most bankable and highly paid actors in show business, starring in blockbuster comic book films like Iron Man and The Avengers. But not so long ago, he was practically unhireable, due to his drinking and drug abuse—not to mention the time his addictions landed him in prison.

Both show business and addiction run in the Downey family. The cult filmmaker Robert Downey Sr., also an addict, allowed his son to try marijuana at the age of six. According to a 1996 People article, drugs facilitated an emotional bond between father and son. This apparently led to Downey becoming a daily drinker.

A Rising Star in Hollywood

Despite his active drug and alcohol addiction, Downey Jr. made a name for himself as a young actor in the mid- to late ‘80s. After a season in the cast of “Saturday Night Live,” he scored film roles in the likes of John Hughes fare such as Weird Science, and he co-starred opposite Molly Ringwald in The Pick-Up Artist in 1987. That same year, Downey also gave a memorable performance in the film adaptation of the Bret Easton Ellis novel Less Than Zero, playing a rich kid whose life went off the rails amid a severe heroin addiction. Downey’s off-screen life would soon uncannily resemble that role.

Downey’s performance in the 1992 biopic Chaplin earned him an Academy Award nomination, and his career seemed to be on an upward trajectory until 1996, when he was arrested for possession of heroin and cocaine. As reported in a 2003 interview with the New York Times, Downey was arrested multiple times for drug offences and cycled in and out of jail.

A Cycle of Drug and Alcohol Abuse

One of the more disturbing incidents involved an intoxicated Downey wandering into a neighbor’s house and passing out in a bed. After repeatedly missing court ordered drug tests, Downey was sentenced to a three-year prison stint in 1999, but only ended up serving a year in California Substance Abuse Treatment Facility and State Prison.

In 2001, while on parole, Downey was found barefoot, wandering around Culver City, California and was arrested on suspicion of being under the influence. That incident led to him being fired from his role on the TV show “Ally McBeal,” in addition to other film and stage jobs. Instead of being sent back to prison, the now-broke actor was ordered to rehab.

The Turning Point

Downey’s wife Susan Downey (née Levin) told Harper’s Bazaar that he quit drugs for good in 2003 after she gave him an ultimatum. Apparently, it stuck. According to a 2013 Daily Mail article, the actor credits a combination of 12-step programs, yoga, meditation and therapy with keeping him sober.

His career didn’t pick up again until Mel Gibson personally underwrote Downey’s liability insurance…

He also credits sobriety for the phenomenal career momentum he has enjoyed over the past few years. In the early aughts, it was practically impossible for Downey to get hired since most filmmakers wouldn’t—or couldn’t—pay the exorbitant insurance bonds it required to have him on set. His career didn’t pick up again until Mel Gibson personally underwrote Downey’s liability insurance so that the actor could star in 2003’s The Singing Detective.

From there, Downey started working steadily, appearing in films such as GothikaA Scanner DarklyZodiac and Kiss, Kiss, Bang, Bang.

Downey’s star-power rose in 2008 when he starred in the summer blockbusters Iron Man and Tropic Thunder, earning his second Oscar nomination for the latter. Downey then starred in The Avengers and subsequent Iron Man movies, making him a critical player for Marvel.

The fact that Robert Downey Jr.’s career seems to improve the longer he stays sober makes his comeback one of the most impressive and inspiring stories.

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