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Dealing with Emotions in Recovery!

 

Emotions are complicated psychological conditions, which cut across culture and nationality. Some of these include anger, fear, sadness, disgust, happiness, surprise, satisfaction, shame, embarrassment, contempt, etc.  The question is how do different people handle these emotions? Do they express them freely or do they try to suppress them?

Addiction recovery is a situation when you realize the need to change your lifestyle and have better plans for your future than just wasting your time in alcohol or drugs. The process of addiction recovery needs support, time and inner motivation; hence its connected with emotions. How does the single factor of ‘emotions’ affect your addiction recovery?

A lot of us have grown up to know that men should not publicly express some of their emotions as the society might consider them to be weak. As a result of this, they just go on killing their feelings. In addiction recovery process, keeping your inner responses curbed is not only unhealthy for you, but it can further complicate the situation. Do you know that there were some emotional situations that have driven you into your present state of drug addiction for which you are seeking recovery? If you don’t face reality and come to terms with it by identifying such emotional challenges, you cannot successfully recover. Irrespective of your desire to be free from the substance addiction, without the inner drive or force to be sincere with yourself, you will not be able to get out of it. This is why drug addicts are advised to be honest with themselves.

In a more specific sense, do you know that the process of addiction recovery is characterized with emotions? Have you thought about the feeling of loneliness and isolation associated with your decision to turn over a new leaf? What happens when you remember your past; time wasted in alcohol, your reaction to siblings and frustrated parents? Can you put all that aside and think the recovery is just a decision that will take its natural course? No. You have to realize that all these are emotionally capable of affecting the entire process of your new decision. The truth here is you’ve got to admit the complexity of the whole process in relation to your emotions. A lot of people like you have struggled with this reality.

Escaping your emotions is dangerous for the recovery process because if you are unable to express your negative emotions, it will be difficult for you to express the positive ones. Successful change is hinged on your ability to discover and express joy. How will you be able to do that if you practice emotional escapism? Look at the price you have paid getting addicted to alcohol because of the numbed feelings. Don’t go that way again. Now that you have decided to have a change of lifestyle, reawaken your emotions and be more expressive. It is a gradual process; learn to share and express your feelings to a confidant. He or she, in turn, will support you and further help you.

 

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Dealing with Emotions in Recovery! was last modified: August 12th, 2017 by Safe House Wellness Retreat

How To Rebuild Trust In Addiction Recovery

Addiction causes turbulence in the Family. A study proves that a couple dealing with addiction have four times the risk of divorce than those who don’t. The damage that people cause due to addiction is major and beyond repair. No matter how hard you try, your partner wants to call it quits because for them it might be impossible to forgive or trust you again.
It’s important to realize that you can’t expect to get back the same relationship you had prior to your addiction – after all, there’s no changing what’s happened or forgetting the hurt and anger. You can create a new marriage, however, that’s based on mutual support and respect, solid communication and trust – but doing so will take time and effort on both your parts. Similarly, chances are good that you’ll need to work on any unresolved issues and problems your relationship had prior to your addiction.
Each day of recovery is one more brick in the foundation of a new reliability that the family will come to trust and believe in. Each day sober speaks louder than a thousand promises.
– Lara Okoloko

Steps to regain trust.

1. Make up for the damage created 
It’s hard to admit when you’ve said or done something wrong or hurtful. But acknowledging the truth of what you said or did shows that you are growing as a person. Your loved one sees that you are taking the steps to becoming a better version on you and helps restore their trust.
2. Honesty is the best policy.
When in addiction, there would have been no lie that you would not have said to get what you wanted. Even as you’re dealing with trying to trust yourself, your partner is working on trusting you again, too. Initially, it may seem difficult, if not impossible, for trust, respect and love to be re-established. It might help to create a system that works for both of you and agree to honor it.
3. Self Forgiveness
As you work towards reconciling with your spouse and creating a new, happier and healthier marriage or relationship, don’t forget yourself. Make sure you each take the time to indulge your own interests and take time alone to do what makes you happiest. If either partner wants to participate in individual counseling, the other should support that decision. Some people in your life may find they’re not able to let past transgressions go, and that’s something you cannot change. But you can work on unburdening yourself of the guilt, shame and regret over your past deeds. 
4.Take accountability for your actions
It’s hard to admit when you’ve said or done something wrong or hurtful. But acknowledging the truth of what you said or did shows that you are growing as a person. Your loved one sees that you are taking the steps to becoming a better version on you and helps restore their trust. You can also use writing as a way to communicate with your spouse. If you’re finding it tough to talk through what you want to say, you’re definitely not alone. After months or even years of emotional pain, frustration and rage, as well as lying and hiding, it can be very difficult to switch gears and become open and communicative almost overnight. If talking about tough issues is too hard at first, write it down in a letter. Once the two of you have begun communicating through letters for a while, it should become easier to have face-to-face discussions.
5. Patience is the key
You know you’re changing, but they might be cautious. Understand that your loved one has gone through a lot for a long time. He or she needs time to build trust. Showing empathy (putting yourself in their shoes) and patience goes a long way and helps you as well.  Involving your spouse in the process to some extent can also be helpful for your marriage. As mentioned above, consider including some couples therapy sessions so you can start rebuilding your relationship as you learn to live sober.Contact us for guidance in recovery. Your privacy is our priority.
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How To Rebuild Trust In Addiction Recovery was last modified: July 20th, 2017 by Safe House Wellness Retreat